tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-708629831826143381.post5225082092935507599..comments2023-06-30T09:10:40.001+01:00Comments on Doula-lly: Is ignorance bliss?Marshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11137777574651762274noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-708629831826143381.post-92102368837940724712011-09-28T22:47:36.693+01:002011-09-28T22:47:36.693+01:00Thanks for this inspiring post! We used this as a...Thanks for this inspiring post! We used this as a jumping off point for one of our own. Here's the link: http://www.plumtreebaby.com/_blog/Plumtree_Baby_Blog/post/Why_do_I_even_need_to_take_a_Childbirth_class_I%E2%80%99m_just_going_to_get_an_epidural_/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-708629831826143381.post-3664325760507095892011-09-28T22:46:26.003+01:002011-09-28T22:46:26.003+01:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-708629831826143381.post-51951494372456418682011-09-28T22:45:21.919+01:002011-09-28T22:45:21.919+01:00Just wanted to let you know this post inspired us ...Just wanted to let you know this post inspired us to add to our blog and we've linked to this page. Thanks for the interesting topic and info!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-708629831826143381.post-42112093736949689972011-05-08T22:20:16.446+01:002011-05-08T22:20:16.446+01:00I'm totally with you there Chris. I got yelle...I'm totally with you there Chris. I got yelled at and told I was deluded when I said that it didn't have to be difficult to breastfeed twins. I was called a loon and a smug b*tch. What can I do? Tell women that it will definitely be awful and that there is no hope? That will never happen. I think it is a wonderful thing and a wondrous time and that we can't predict a journey we've never taken before.Marshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11137777574651762274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-708629831826143381.post-36602263716559284152011-05-08T16:44:20.365+01:002011-05-08T16:44:20.365+01:00there seems a default that birth is awful. I was ...there seems a default that birth is awful. I was waiting at the FMU months ago, and there was a woman there whose waters had broken. she was a twin. I was pregnant with twins, we got chatting.<br /><br />her contractions hadn't really kicked in. I was excited for her, and said so. every other woman there was telling her to "get the drugs". she said she was hoping for a drug free birth and there were sharp intakes of breath from these other 4 or 5 women who told her she was crazy, just get the damn drugs. I said I loved giving birth, was really looking forward to doing it again and then they all looked at me like I was crazy!<br /><br />if everyone is telling you that birth is awful and dangerous, then I can completely understand that you might want to cede control of your body to drugs and doctors that "know best". <br /><br />when I was first pregnant only one friend shared a positive birth story; everyone else told me horror stories. luckily I am more scared of losing my autonomy and my second labour was even better than my first, but it seems difficult for me to say that without women who haven't had that experience thinking I'm criticising them (I'm not). but how can women know what a positive experience birth can be if most women they know are not having or not telling them about "good" births?chrisnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-708629831826143381.post-53989740871284372572011-05-08T02:57:56.447+01:002011-05-08T02:57:56.447+01:00yes. it blows my mind when women don't want to...yes. it blows my mind when women don't want to have any knowledge or even idea of what is going to happen to them or their baby. i find it a disheartening and sad comment on our society that bringing up anything other than "i hope you got the drugs!" is viewed as "hippy" or "out there". even if someone does choose the epidural or c-section, i wish they would do it with information behind them. I have a friend who had a section, but she had so much information and her choice was completely informed. in her situation, it was truly best. i support that 100%. what i don't support - or rather, have a much harder time supporting - is the ones that don't want to know anything and just want to be pain-free. sorry, but birth just doesn't work that way!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-708629831826143381.post-54396732558092942412011-05-07T23:29:52.695+01:002011-05-07T23:29:52.695+01:00Indeed Breezy. Indeed!Indeed Breezy. Indeed!Marshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11137777574651762274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-708629831826143381.post-56146845650517615162011-05-07T23:26:41.034+01:002011-05-07T23:26:41.034+01:00I don't know if ignorance is bliss, but I do k...I don't know if ignorance is bliss, but I do know that biting one's tongue is expected. It is so blasted difficult to say ANYTHING about pregnancy/birth/breastfeeding that is not utterly middle of the road or supportive of the mainstream. <br /><br />To say anything other than, "oh, the drugs are great!" is to impugn the mother and belittle her choices. Since WHEN did advocating for the health of mamas and babies become taboo? It's endlessly, endlessly frustrating. Epidurals and cesareans are safer than they have been in our collective hospital birth history, but it doesn't get any safer than a labor that starts spontaneously, progresses spontaneously and ends in pushing spontaneously. Why is it so incendiary to say so?Breezyhttp://wombitmayconcern.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.com